Trust issue, antara diri dan orang lain
Saya terlalu sering langsung percaya orang lain. Dan itu malah membahayakan diri saya sendiri.
I trust people too often. And it endangers myself.Straight to my point, I trust a lot of people. I mean, if I recognize or I think the person that I'm referring to is my friend, I will try to put my trusts on them.
words from the first person ≠ words from the last person
Do you know that game when you have to whisper a sentence to your friends behind you, and then it goes to the last person in the row?
If the sentence is too long, there might be some changes on it. That's it.
Hmm
When A said, "Oh, she (B) is too rude. I don't like her because my friend said that she was insulting at me behind."
And we roll back to A's friend (—let's say it's Z) that has said, "A!, did you know that B insult you a much? I heard it from my friend!" before.
Meanwhile, Z's friend (—Y) said, "Z! I just heard B was talking about your friend, I think she insulted her."
Looks like "talking, insulting, thinking, a much" has changed its meaning a lot. And that happens around you. Imagine.
How many fake news you have ever trust?
Dan parahnya, you have involved to spread it to your 'other' friends. Looks like you've been a big liar now! Bagaimana kalau kalimat tersebut sampai di telinga orang sebenarnya dan bahwasanya itu semua salah besar?
Orang itu sih taunya itu dari Anda. Walaupun Anda sendiri tahunya dari orang lain. Bagaimana perasaan orang itu sendiri? And the most important thing is, bagaimana perasaan diri Anda sendiri?
How will that person' feeling be?
How will your feeling be?
Won't they dislike you?
Won't you dislike you?
I mean, ketika sudah seringkali merasa terbohongi, maka seringkali saya mempertanyakan diri sendiri.
Apakah saya yang sekarang itu asli, bukan bohongan?
Am I now the real version of me, not the fake version of me?
Saya bingung. Yang jelas, saya harap ini merupakan proses menuju kedewasaan.
I'm overwhelmed. To be clear, I hope this is my phase towards maturity.
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